Wife Wants Divorce, Due To Post Pardum Depression ?
Q: Last week my wife came out and told me that she hasn't loved me or been
happy since my daughter was born. She was diagnosed with post partum
depression last year and only took the prescription for a week. She feels
like she needs to be alone. I fear for my one year old daughter, I will be
moving in with my parents 4 hours away and she will be put in day care, and
then come home to her. She has a history of depression and abusive behavior
(towards me). I truly believe this divorce will benefit myself and her
because she'll get what she wants, but I don't think it's fair that my
daughter will have to deal with her mood swings. I will have a steady job
but I will barely get by because I'm a full time student also.
A:There's no chance that she's not my daughter, but I thank you for your
response. I do want custody of her, but it's a matter of a place to live and
a job that would decide custody for her in court. I left my job to stay
home with her. My career makes it pretty difficult to have a normal day
care schedule as well.
As far as visitation is concerned, she has already told me it will be open
to whenever I want to have her. She wants to have custody, but I can have
her pretty much every weekend if I so choose. Our assets can be divided
however we choose, she basically doesn't want to go to court, and I'd rather
avoid it as well. Anyway, that's how that stands.
If your wife is that much of a whacko and a threat to your child,
fight for custody. I'm stick of all these men in the world so willing
to allow the mothers to have the children. It's total bullshit. Men
can be just as effective parents. If the two of you can't stay
together, then the child needs to be with the one who is most stable.
Igor.. what the fuck are you talking about? It's his daughter
regardless. He's had her for what, 4 years? You always go too far
bringing things that really aren't relevant. He didn't suggest or
imply that this kid isn't his so why the hell are you putting that in
his mind?
Incredible. Get a different job then.. or put off school. This is
your flesh and blood we're talking about... not an office with a
larger window because you put in the hours... or the extra retirement
plan you got because you earned that degree. That stuff can still
come later. You can always get that back. You might not be able to get
your daughter back.
Sure, but fighting an all-out war for custody never did anyone any
good, unless one parent is a definitive threat to the child's welfare.
IMO, this is a borderline case, and will be viewed as such, unless the
OP can show his wife has recklessly endangered the child, or has a
history of mental health problems PLUS is not taking her medicine. All
we have is one episode of post-partum depression (which is quite
common) and a wife who